What True Love Actually Feels Like
Let me tell you something about true love. It’s not what the movies show you. It’s not grand gestures or passionate arguments that end in steamy makeout sessions.
True love is calm. It’s peaceful. It’s a warm blanket on a cold night, not a raging inferno that burns everything in its path.
I’ve been there, caught up in the whirlwind of what I thought was love. The drama, the intensity, the constant ups and downs. It was exhilarating, sure. But it was also exhausting.
And you know what? That wasn’t love. That was chaos masquerading as passion.
Real love doesn’t leave you questioning your worth. It doesn’t keep you up at night, wondering if you’re good enough. It doesn’t make you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells.
The right person, the one who truly loves you, will make you feel secure. Safe. Like you can finally breathe easy.
They won’t play mind games or keep you guessing. They won’t make you feel like you’re competing for their attention or affection.
True love is consistent. It’s reliable. It’s there for you on your best days and your worst days.
It’s not about grand romantic gestures or flowery declarations. It’s about the small things. The everyday kindnesses. The quiet understanding.
It’s about someone who listens when you speak, really listens. Someone who sees you, all of you, and loves every part.
And let me tell you, ladies, if there’s chaos in your relationship, he’s not the one. Period.
If you’re constantly stressed, anxious, or confused about where you stand, that’s not love. That’s manipulation. That’s insecurity. That’s bullshit.
Real love doesn’t leave room for doubt. It doesn’t make you question your sanity or your self-worth.
It builds you up. It makes you feel stronger, more confident, more yourself than you’ve ever been.
I’ve wasted years of my life on men who made me feel like I was never enough. Men who kept me guessing, who made me feel small, who drained my energy and left me hollow.
And I’m here to tell you: that’s not what love looks like.
Love should add to your life, not subtract from it. It should multiply your joy, not divide your attention.
The right person will make you feel like you can conquer the world. They’ll be your biggest cheerleader, your safest space, your partner in every sense of the word.
They won’t try to change you or mold you into their ideal. They’ll love you for exactly who you are, flaws and all.
And here’s the thing: you deserve that kind of love. We all do.
Don’t settle for less. Don’t convince yourself that drama equals passion or that uncertainty means excitement.
True love is steady. It’s a rock in the storm of life, not the storm itself.
It’s someone who shows up, day after day, choosing you. Someone who puts in the effort, who communicates openly and honestly, who respects your boundaries and your dreams.
It’s someone who makes you laugh, who dries your tears, who holds your hand through the good times and the bad.
And most importantly, it’s someone who brings peace to your life, not chaos.
So if you’re in a relationship that leaves you feeling confused, anxious, or unsure, take a hard look at it. Ask yourself: is this really love?
Because true love, real love, the kind of love we all deserve, doesn’t leave room for confusion. It doesn’t play games with your heart or your mind.
It’s clear. It’s consistent. It’s calm.
And let me tell you, once you’ve experienced that kind of love, you’ll never settle for anything less again.
You’ll realize that all those relationships that left you feeling drained and confused weren’t love at all. They were lessons. Stepping stones leading you to the real thing.
So don’t be afraid to walk away from chaos. Don’t cling to relationships that leave you feeling less than. Don’t settle for crumbs when you deserve the whole damn cake.
True love is out there. It exists. And you deserve it.
You deserve someone who sees your worth, who cherishes your spirit, who loves you fiercely and calmly all at once.
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Don’t let society’s warped ideas of romance fool you into accepting less than you deserve.
Demand better. Expect more. Love yourself enough to walk away from anything that doesn’t bring you peace.
Because that’s what true love feels like. Peace. Security. Home.
And trust me, it’s worth waiting for. It’s worth fighting for. It’s worth everything.
